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Where did you get that quote from? It's one of the best non-academic language explanations I've seen and would be so useful to try to explain things to my students as I'm sure I will have to do again next year...

And ugh what a creep, that guy at the bus stop, sorry you had to experience that. What the whole story made me think of was the sense of entitlement many men seem to have; entitled to talk to any woman anywhere and entitled to a positive response, entitled to comment on a woman's body, clothes, attitude, opinions, interests, her everything, and have their comments matter and to be taken on board. And if they are not, if a woman talks back or even simply walks away, does not engage because why should they, then she is a heartless bitch indeed.

Good post, thank you for sharing.

Oh, the quote is something that seems to be going around on tumblr, which makes it difficult to find the original, but here's my source. Hopefully that's still useful! It's one of the best explanations I've seen too.

I know *shudder* it's something I was aware of before, intellectually and emotionally, but not something I'd ever faced in this context. I was actually composing a post in my head that - I realize now - was relating rape culture and gender identity, how it feels to present as female, as recently as yesterday, and then that guy came in and turned it into this.

A little googling gave the original source: http://shakespearessister.blogspot.com/2009/10/rape-culture-101.html Excellent post overall.

It's jarring when that happens. I mean I work in academia, I socialise mostly with women, I'm white, able-bodied and cis-gendered, and rarely wear outward signs of my sexuality (bi/pan/kinky) so for the most time I 'fly under the radar' so to speak. But then every now and then something happens that reminds me that despite all the other parts of me that make me me, for some people (for some men) I am just a woman (and the 'just' is very much present) and that does not amount to much.

Ah, google. That makes sense. /facepalm That post in its entirety is really powerful and really depressing.

That reminding aspect is part of what I was trying to get across here, simply because it's not something I'd quite experienced before, and I hadn't quite realized what it would remind me. It's almost like I hadn't realized it could even happen to me, because, similarly, I feel like I fly under the radar. One of my thoughts re:gender identity/presentation was that the more ambiguous my gender presentation is, the safer I feel, and it's not just about consistency between presentation and identity: it's as though the "wait, are you a girl?" confusion would act as protection - and that in itself reflects the influence of rape culture on society, when you think about it. It's so pervasive.

It freaked me out a bit, so. Just talking about it has helped me get my bearings a little. Thanks!

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